Photo is of me at Bear Lake Colorado.
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Take a moment here and ask your future self that question. Perhaps your future self can persuade your present self to act right now. The present self is often only focused on the here and now and what you know in any given moment.
What was your future self’s answer? Was it one of regret? Was it one of missed opportunities? Did your future self feel as if you had just let life pass you by, putting up with the things you really didn’t want to do? What does your 80-year-old self have to say to your 50 or 60-year-old self?
It can be too late
One of the sayings that really bugs the crap out of me is, “It’s never too late.”
Yes, it can be too late. People die every single day without realizing their dreams. Or their health or financial situation becomes so dire, they cannot focus on anything but making it through the moments of their day.
Your future doesn’t care about your dreams, it only cares if you actually acted on those dreams.
I can look back on my live and pinpoint the exact moments I choose not to make a change and what it cost me.
- My dignity
- My self-worth
- My health
- My peace of mind
- A life I could have truly loved
Conversely, I can look back and the times I did make a change, and what I gained.
- No more toxic relationships
- A clear sense of purpose
- I got my dignity back
- Greater self-worth
I have no regrets over what I gained, but plenty over what I didn’t.
Just a side note here – 2021 is when I really make a change for better health!
You have so much greatness to give the world
And how true is this for women over 50, with all the wisdom we have, and all the live we have lived. What a shame it is that we decide to not grace the world with the best we can be. When we hid under a bushel, it tells the world exactly what they believe about women over 50. That we are over the hill and we might as well just chuck our dreams and trade it in for a rocking chair and knitting needles.
My mother resigned herself to her life. She gave up a long time before she died. She retired from her job of 30 years and a year later she was dead at the age of 62. If my mom had any dreams, she kept them well hidden. Whatever greatness my mom had; we never had the chance to see. I find that a real shame. This to me is the saddest thing about my mom’s sudden death. Which goes back to my point – it can really be too late!
Inaction will scar your life forever
I don’t know about you, but I am sure as hell am tired of regrets, and woulda’, coulda’, shoulda’.
I believe regret and disappointment weigh so heavy on us not only emotionally, but also physically. So much of our brain space spent on wishing things could be different.
Let’s take all this negative energy and turn it around. Use it to make that sought-after change. Is it a new job, leaving a bad relationship, moving, or becoming healthy? You seriously have so much to gain, and all the right things to lose.
So how does one go about making a change?
The one thing to do is so simple, yet not easy. First the decision has to be made to make the change, and then you just have to do it! Yes, you have to make the decision and then get your proverbial ass off the proverbial couch and get to it.
After many decades we are so mired down in our own negative thoughts, what others may think, bad habits, and plain old indifference.
We are where we are, and who has the energy to change now. Right?
Take back your power
The first thing I want to encourage you to do is deem yourself worthy of good health, good relationships, and good fortune. Just as you have given yourself the power to feel unworthy, you are the only one who has the power to move yourself to a place of worthiness.
Use your power to rock the boat and show the world that you refuse to stay stuck where you are.
It’s there inside you, waiting for permission from you to come out.
“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.” — Brené Brown